If you think gay people are gorss then grow up

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You know, even if you aren’t aware, what it’s like to be an outsider. You could do some serious thinking about when you first noticed these feelings and what you were exposed to in life that caused them. Did you know, for example, that only 3% of queer folks grow up in affirming religious communities?.

Perhaps you could read up on the history of homophobia and expose yourself to scholarship and art by gay thinkers and writers. If so, should I try to get over them? How do I even do that? Copy Link Share Share Comment.

You might start by writing down your feelings and asking yourself whether they make sense, and then focusing on how you would like to feel not disgusted and why. Begging not to be a bigot: Over the past few weeks, my friends have called me out for saying things they thought were slightly bigoted.

A lot of my straight female friends liked to watch gay porn, but I never did. I don’t care what people do behind closed doors, but I can’t stop feeling like gay sex is gross. Here are 30 ways to deal with internalized homophobia, and help you stay on the path to recovery from your exposure to homophobia.

If you desperately need to avoid something like a film with scenes that make you uncomfortable, just make an excuse for now. It is abusive to tell young people that their same-sex gender attraction is “bad”, “immoral”, or “shameful”.

I started tearing up, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and instead asked, “If your guy friend liked another guy, would you think he’s gross?” and he said yeah. I think a lot of it had to do with gay relationships becoming more represented in media.

If I never say or do anything based on these beliefs, are they really that bad? And so when you grow up gay, you have an appreciation and an understanding for those who like to color their lives outside of the lines. Growing up in a homophobic culture can be considered a form of abuse.

When I asked why, he said that then they could get married and that it’s weird. My friends wanted to watch a movie about male sexuality that I knew had some gay male sex scenes and the thought of that freaked me out.

Do not, under any circumstances, burden gay people you may know in real life or on the internet and ask them to fix you. The one thing that I just cannot get over is gay sex. Gay men still face discrimination, stigma, and violence—in school, housing, healthcare, the workplace, and various other avenues in their communities.

You may not be able to change the way you feel immediately, but you can certainly change the impact it has on others. I don’t feel this way about gay females. Slate homepage. My friends set me up with a bi man once and when I found out he was bi, it completely turned me off.